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Things don’t always go as planned. On vacation you can pretty well guarantee that multiple plans are going to fall through or something is going to happen that can derail you.
I am no expert on overcoming personal obstacles, it feels like quite the opposite most of the time. I let little things, and even big things get to me and I stress and nit pick and get anxious over things that have happened, are happening, and will happen(or are possibilities). Not a trait that is conducive to enjoying oneself fully on a vacation.
For me it took my most recent “long” vacation to realize that as much as I feel the need to control things, my positive outlook on a vacation depends greatly on my control over my emotions. I’m still working on this, and more than just for vacations I am also trying to implement this skill in my day to day life.
You know what I mean. You are on vacation and just strolling around wherever and some numb-skull will knock into you, spill something, then yell at you as if it were all your fault. Which it wasn’t. Then you get mad and you complain. And continue to complain and get more mad. Then any little annoying thing that happens is 10x worse than it really should be and you aren’t enjoying yourself as much as you should and can.
Some other things that can put a damper on your vacation: Rain, car accidents, activity closures, doctor visits (or hospital), flight cancellation, luggage disappears, bad server at a restaurant, and on and on. There are millions of things that can offend us and get us annoyed when we travel.
I have had these kinds of scenarios happen before, and multiple times and places all over the country. I’ve had a bunch of “I just want to go home” moments. But I could have done some things differently. I could have enjoyed my time more fully.
How to React. When those inevitable moments in time arise, what are you going to do? Think about it this way, is blowing up going to help the situation? (note, this basically NEVER helps) So keep your calm! Laugh it off even. And do your best to keep this up . . . basically forever.
Distract Yourself. You are annoyed (or pissed off) that something isn’t working out or something happened to bug you. Go do something to get your mind off of it! If you are already out, amp up the fun. If you aren’t busy then go find something awesome to occupy your time. Personally, I get worked up more when I am “hangry”. In a way you could say I eat my feelings away, nothing chills me out better than eating a real good meal. So maybe go eat something fantastic to get your mind off things.
Rearrange. Your plans may be messed up, and that happens. Don’t let changed plans get you down to where you can’t enjoy anything else. Schedule something new, make it an adventure.
The Fallout. This may not apply to every circumstance but you can generally avoid the problem. A certain place was horrible, don’t go there again! A person doesn’t know how to be a normal human being, you don’t have to be around them. You are in control. Do what is right for you.
Forget About it. Really. Put that crap behind you, it’s not going to benefit you in any way.
I know that wherever you go in the world there is going to be someone or multiple people who are going to do or say something that you can either get upset about or let it roll off you. When you are far from home you want to have a good time and if you let someone get to you then that time is stained by their negativity and whatever you do back that is unsavory.
And when it comes to plans not working out (darn, that awesome bat exhibit it closed on the day you chose to visit the zoo!), don’t let it get you down! There are always going to be unexpected occurrences of traffic, crowds, lines, maintenance, runaway monkeys . . . Go with the flow. And maybe try to have a few backup plans in place. You may just have a better time with your contingency plan that the original.
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